Spice Up Sexy Time With Sensation Play
Can you think of a time you were really turned on? I’m talking about making-a-mess-on-yourself-because-you-can’t-handle-it type of turned on? Yeah, you know what I’m talking about! Chances are, this arousal came about before the main event! Foreplay is great to set the tone for a great sexual experience, like the feel of hands on your body, or the scent of someone’s cologne or perfume. This kind of foreplay is called sensation play.
Sensation play is the act of engaging your senses in different ways to bring about sensual stimulation and pleasure. Typically known as an activity within BDSM, sensation play can also be enjoyable for traditional or vanilla sex. You’ve more than likely already dabbled in sensation play in the past. The beauty of it is that there are so many ways to engage in this practice, and it doesn’t have to end in intercourse. It can be pleasant, painful or both. You can target one specific sense, combine senses or use sensory deprivation (the act of eliminating one sense or more) to enhance another!
Before diving head first into this type of play, make sure you and your partner(s) negotiate terms and provide consent. A safe word can be helpful to communicate when you or your partner have had enough or want to switch things up.
Below, I listed 5 common ways to incorporate sensation play in the bedroom tonight to experience unspeakable pleasure!
Temperature Play
Temperature play is using hot and cold temperatures in a sexual context. Imagine the feeling of a cold ice cube rubbed on or around your nipples, or the feeling of warm candle wax (coconut oil base or similar!) dripped onto your back.
Mirror/Blindfolds
Ne-Yo loved making love to his woman in the mirror for a reason! There’s something about seeing yourself pleasing and/or being pleased by your partner in a mirror that brings out the best in us. Making this simple change in your love making routine can add a much needed spice to your scene. Fun mirror placements can include the ceiling, the foot of the bed or even in the shower!
Using blindfolds can be another way to add spice to the bedroom. This is a form of sensory deprivation, in which you take away your partner(s) sense of sight, enhancing their other senses for a more pleasurable experience.
Impact Play
If you like the feel of being touched or striked with objects, impact play may be the thing for you. Rihanna was definitely on to something when she said, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but chains and whips excite me.” There are a variety of objects that can be used such as floggers, paddles, canes, or even household items like spatulas, belts, or dog leashes. Depending on whether you enjoy more of a sting, a thud or both, different objects can elicit a delicious pain that brings about sexual gratification for both the top (the person giving out the sensation) and bottom (the person receiving the sensation.)
Restraints
Being restrained can produce euphoria. This act requires a lot of trust with your partner, as you are relinquishing control which can be highly euphoric in itself. Although this type of play can require more training and research, you can incorporate basic restraining techniques using things you may already have in your home like hair scrunchies, scarves or ties (recall the infamous scene from Fifty Shades of Grey, anyone?).
Smell, Taste, Sounds
Don’t sleep on how hot it can be incorporating your sense of smell, taste and sound in the bedroom. Bring in something sweet like whipped cream or chocolate syrup, and take turns licking it off each other.
Spray your partner’s favorite scent onto your body, or even better, allow your natural body scent to entice your partner.
If stirring a pot of Mac ‘n Cheese arouses you, you’ll definitely enjoy the sounds of love making when adding your favorite water-based lube to the mix! Don’t forget to put on your favorite sex tunes to heighten the mood.
